There is no harder job in this world than being a mum (or parent). Add to that trying to run a successful business can add to the guilt and pressure that you already are feeling. You try and prioritise your children, yet business commitments leave you feeling worn out.
The truth is, you are not alone, every mum in business is feeling the same. All of them have different strategies that they use to achieve balance. One of the best tips is to find your support community… Fill it with people you can call on to have a coffee with, go to the movies, look after your kids, drive them where they need to go, help you in your business, fill the sample bags, fold the letters, make the phone calls, look after your social media. Whatever you need doing so that you can have balance in your life.
History tells us that we are not supposed to be doing all this mothering stuff alone. In years gone by and in some cultures today, babies and children are raised by villages. Daily tasks and jobs are shared amongst the villagers. The burden is shared amongst many people. Individual skills are used and taught for the greater benefit of the community. Experience and learnings are passed on, so we can learn from others mistakes and successes.
At some point, we, in Western Society stopped doing this, we pulled apart the concept of village and community. In doing so we lost our support, we added stress to our lives and we believe the story that not only do we have to do it alone, we should raise above all the barriers in ourselves to make it all happen.
I challenge you to look at your family and your friends. What skills and experience can you gain from them? Most importantly what can you give in return. Invite those people into your support community. Ask for help and offer your help. My guess is that they will not feel burdened, they will feel relief and support in their own life.
There will most likely be gaps in your support community. Gaps that you will need to pay properly skilled people to complete tasks. This could include regular childcare, house cleaning, book keeping and marketing to name a few. There are people and organisations who provide these things and can help you for a fee. Put a value on the task and your time and look at outsourcing it.
Once you have people in your life that you can rely on to be there for you when you need it, you will feel supported in your roles of being a successful business owner and present mother. You will be able to use your time wisely and balance amongst the chaos of life.
About Your Guest Blogger: Rachel Allan has been a business owner for 12 years, and a mum for 5½ years. On her business-and-baby journey she has learned a lot about life, business and herself. She shares her discoveries (and the wisdom of other parents and experts) with you in her new book, When Business Meets Baby. Rachel is honoured to be Sophie’s mum, and she is also an author, integrated marketer, entrepreneur and property investor. From 2007 she has shared her journey with her business and life partner Craig. If you would like to discover more about Rachel and the services she offers, visit her at www.rachelallan.com.au.